Dating. Harry meets Sally; they fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. Classic. Oh! I forgot the part with the bunch of kids running all over the place and literally tearing the whole house apart. No wait, it’s that cheaper by the dozen movie. Anyways, Hollywood has spawn out an uncountable number of such stories and has made trillions of dollars from them. Different variations, each time with just the right twist for the right season-be it winter, summer, Christmas, New Year, or whatever-but still the same old story.Dating. Opposites definitely attract. Its one of those things that MUST happen so that this our very beautiful, attractive, swimsuit model of a world can keep on spinning on her ‘catwalk’. Attraction is the reason dating happens. It may be physical, i.e. caused by beauty, money, style, fame, power, or generally things we can see or hear, although most people can translate this to mean lust (opinions are free). It could also be chemical, in other words, we don’t know why a pull towards a certain something or someone, all we know is that there is a definite pull and most of the time there is little or nothing we can do about it. Either of the two types of attractions could be motivated by the need for comforting, security and companionship, or by greed, lust, pity, etc.
Detour. Please come along. Christians are followers of Jesus Christ, the Son of the Most High God, second in the Trinity that died on the cross of Calvary to redeem every “lost soul”- who is willing- back to the Father, first of course in the Trinity. So, by simply confessing Christ as your Lord and personal saviour and getting baptized both by water and the Holy Spirit (John 3 vs. 5), the holy Spirit, third in the Trinity, comes and dwells in you, (John 14 vs. 16 & 17), acting as a continuous live link with divinity so that you can always access heaven and never be alone. He becomes your comforter, guide and will teach you all you need to know, if you let Him (John 14 vs. 26)
Dating. We are back. Dating is good and it is recommended by experts (both in the circular and in the Christian community) as a pre-requisite to marriage. Which means dating should lead to marriage, an institution in Christianity considered honourable and sacred. A period where a man and/or woman picks a mate, go out on a date, or a couple of dates, then decides he/she is the most suitable partner. For live. But, many people enter into dating with a preconceived notion of what dating should be like, for them, or they may have a set of criteria or things they are looking for in a mate and when they don’t see it, its bye bye and off to the next ‘mark’. This makes dating a selection process by elimination, trial and error if you will, without knowing how many times the process will be repeated before becoming successful.
Detour. Please come along. Christians are followers of Jesus Christ, the Son of the Most High God, second in the Trinity that died on the cross of Calvary to redeem every “lost soul”- who is willing- back to the Father, first of course in the Trinity. So, by simply confessing Christ as your Lord and personal saviour and getting baptized both by water and the Holy Spirit (John 3 vs. 5), the holy Spirit, third in the Trinity, comes and dwells in you, (John 14 vs. 16 & 17), acting as a continuous live link with divinity so that you can always access heaven and never be alone. He becomes your comforter, guide and will teach you all you need to know, if you let Him (John 14 vs. 26)
Dating. We are back. Dating is good and it is recommended by experts (both in the circular and in the Christian community) as a pre-requisite to marriage. Which means dating should lead to marriage, an institution in Christianity considered honourable and sacred. A period where a man and/or woman picks a mate, go out on a date, or a couple of dates, then decides he/she is the most suitable partner. For live. But, many people enter into dating with a preconceived notion of what dating should be like, for them, or they may have a set of criteria or things they are looking for in a mate and when they don’t see it, its bye bye and off to the next ‘mark’. This makes dating a selection process by elimination, trial and error if you will, without knowing how many times the process will be repeated before becoming successful.For many in the dating game, the thrill of the chase is all they are after without any actual intention of marriage so they just go on and on bulldozing people’s hearts and feelings as they go. This then creates another group of individuals who are at the business end of the gun and end up with the heartbreaks, exhaustions, frustrations and hurt. Another down turn to dating is the fact that people are normally at their best behaviours during dating (and even in courtship). Don’t you agree? These people can carry on a pretence or a false notion for the entire period of dating just to lure the other party to the alter. Little wonder then people wake up one morning three years after the thrills and glitz of honeymoon has passed or the pretence has either worn out or is discovered and go, “oh my God, what have done now?”
Now please don’t get me wrong. I am not against dating neither Am I promoting a cause against it (although it does seem so, but not). As a matter of fact, dating has helped a lot of people find fulfillment in their marital pursuit, and still is. For many, there is just nothing else to turn to. But at such a time when the divorce rate has gone through the roof and marriages are failing left, right and center, there simply has to be other and better options for people seeking to preserve the beauty and sanctity of the marriage institution. There just has to be. Even arranged marriages are an option. Now wait just a minute, if it worked (and wonderfully well too) for our fathers and forefathers, we only need to know why and how, then apply it and see it working for us too- maybe even better.
Now please don’t get me wrong. I am not against dating neither Am I promoting a cause against it (although it does seem so, but not). As a matter of fact, dating has helped a lot of people find fulfillment in their marital pursuit, and still is. For many, there is just nothing else to turn to. But at such a time when the divorce rate has gone through the roof and marriages are failing left, right and center, there simply has to be other and better options for people seeking to preserve the beauty and sanctity of the marriage institution. There just has to be. Even arranged marriages are an option. Now wait just a minute, if it worked (and wonderfully well too) for our fathers and forefathers, we only need to know why and how, then apply it and see it working for us too- maybe even better.
Don’t quit yet neither let what has happened so far stop you from finding and enjoy good quality relationship. And if you are new at this you don’t have to go through all that pain and rejection. There is another better option. It is definitely worth the try and has a 100% guarantee of success. Finding a suitable mate to spend your live with does not have to be frustrating, exhausting and heartbreaking. It does not have to be a game of chance, or trial and error. Let it be something you can trust in. Something that leave you truly satisfied and not feeling used and dumped. Do I have your attention yet? Jesus said, “He that is born of the spirit is spirit, and he that is born of the flesh is flesh”The other option? Spend time with the teacher, the comforter, and the guide. Fellowship with the Holy Spirit. Spend time in His presence. Ask him and He will tell you what and who. He cannot lead you astray. Remember, He is the guide, the teacher. He will direct you. He will lead you. If you are sincere and serious when the right person comes along he will tell you and you will know. Believe me, I know.
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